"Special" days: code for "let's fight"

A friend of mine is having a rough day. 

Fought with her husband. He went off to work in a huff. And guess what? It's their 20th anniversary.

Oy vey.

We've all done it. We have these 'special days' we build up in our heads. Birthdays, anniversaries, and let's don't forget Valentines Day. They are supposed to be ...different... everybody is supposed to be nice to us, bad things won't happen, we will wake up 10 lbs lighter...you know!

Uh huh.

Does that *ever* happen? Not so much. ;)

I'm as guilty as anyone. 

But the last decade or so I've kind of had to learn a new perspective. My husbands career choices kind of forced that on me. :P

Our anniversary tends to find him in some kind of 'meeting'. Whether it's a Deacon meeting or something for the church or a Feeder meeting or some intensely important something for his boss.

My birthday is right in the middle of bull sale season. (what? y'all don't have bull sale season? Well. clearly you are doing something wrong...)

And we haven't spent a Valentines Day together for the better part of a decade thanks to the World Ag Expo (tell me some crabby old farmer dude didn't plan that one!)

I could pout & stomp my feet (OK, sometimes I still do) but that doesn't change anything. It certainly doesn't help anything. It's his job. It just happens to have really crummy timing.

And he makes up for it. (most of the time) We do 'special' days just because. Or the next week or the next month. Sometimes ordinary days become special days out of the blue. 

Like last week, when in the middle of the daily chaos, he put "our song" on & we slow danced in the school room while the chaos raged around us.

Or yesterday, when I was barefoot, & he gave me a piggy back ride to the grass so I wouldn't have to walk on the stickers.

Ordinary days but some simple, joyful act reminded me how much I love him & he loves me. Just because.

So if it's the Friday before your special day or after or the next month but you have the opportunity to do something ~ run with it! Enjoy it! Make 'that day'  your 'special day'. Calendar be darned.

We've got to make of this life what we can while we can.

Love & Joy are choices not just wishy washy feelings.

And should you blow it & fight with your husband or say something hateful or vis versa ~ declare a 'do over'!

Call, text, send an e-mail, or a carrier pigeon. Apologize. Make him an offer he can't refuse. Declare a brand new start to your brand new 'special day" and have some fun :)

Blessings.